Articles
Losing Yourself in the Relationship: Narcissism, Gaslighting and Recovery
A fictional but far too familiar story Sarah used to describe herself as confident, capable and independent. Friends came to her for advice. She trusted her judgement and felt secure in who she was. That began to change slowly after she met Mark. At first, he was attentive and charming. He made her feel special
When the Past Won’t Stay in the Past: The Value of EMDR
Consider the story of James, – a fictional but familiar one. James didn’t expect a car accident to stay with him long after the bruises healed. At first, he considered himself lucky. He had walked away from the crash with only minor physical injuries. Friends and family reassured him he’d be “back to normal” in no
When Trust is Broken
Emma and Jason had been together for 12 years, raising two young children in Auckland. Life was busy but stable—work, school, routines. From the outside, nothing seemed out of place. That changed in an instant. One evening, Emma discovered messages on Jason’s phone. What she first hoped was a misunderstanding quickly became clear. Jason had
When Someone Is Still Alive But Gone: The Quiet Grief of Estrangement – A Story Many People Will Recognise
In many New Zealand families, relationships are close and intertwined. Birthdays, Christmas barbecues, Sunday lunches, and grandchildren’s school events become the rhythm of family life. But sometimes a relationship breaks down in a way that leaves someone still alive — yet absent. For those experiencing estrangement, the grief can be profound, confusing, and often invisible